Tag Archive: Happiness

December 11, 2019

Book review: The Art of Making Memories by Meik Wiking

The author Meik Wiking is probably mostly associated with the concepts hygge and lykke, as he wrote two books exploring those Danish lifestyle ideas (you’ll find my book reviews here and here). So when I saw his new publication, I knew I wanted to read it to learn more about how to live a happier life, especially since the author is the founder of the world’s first Happiness Research Institute, based in Copenhagen, Denmark.

If you have read any of Meik Wiking’s books, you will know that he has a fantastic sense of humour, great distance to his life and himself and, in my humble opinion, he writes his books in the hygge spirit; you’ll find them heart-warming, kind and funny.

So Christmas is coming and we may want to create it as a memorable moment. Even though I find Christmas very special, I don’t remember each and every one of the Christmasses I have experienced in my life. I remember when I got an enormous amount of books one Christmas when I was a child, when we went to the mountains or to Scotland, when we celebrated it in one tiny room which I and my husband were renting then (we had the floor heated, so no cold feet!), the last Christmas together with my father-in-law before he passed away and of course, the first Christmasses of our daughters. OK, that’s enough, or I’ll soon start crying and will never finish this book review!

So, what is the recipe for making happy memories? Meik Wiking has some practical ideas that can help you turn your ordinary everydayness into memorable special moments, for example having a new experience (do you speak foreign languages? Learn a new language!), using all your senses (how does childhood’s innocence smell?), paying full attention (remember: what you pay attention to, grows), connecting with your loved ones (invite your friends over and prepare for them the most scrumptious dessert & some Japanese tea/Colombian coffee and don’t forget to invite me!), sharing your embarrassing story (oh yes, that can be a good one especially at family gatherings), challenging yourself (I always think about it when I practise some sports, go an extra mile and you’ll feel so much better), telling a story (remember and retell those wonderful/funny/scary stories of your life), create and treasure memorable objects (I remember when my friend in high school, started writing a diary for her future children, to be given when they’re 18, special huh?)). And if you want to plan a memorable year, there are some tips/ideas on this subject, too.

As we keep reading Meik Wiking’s book, we discover how fascinating our memory is and as we know memory is an integral part of language learning. We want to memorise the vocabulary, grammar structures, cultural rules, etc. So is there a secret ingredient that can help us remember better? It’s association! “As a consequence, forgetting may be caused by a simple lack of appropriate cues that spark the memory.” (p. 106) The next time you have a list of vocab to learn, try to associate the words with some images, objects or specific circumstances, I bet you’ll remember them better! Also, you can read our blog posts on vocab learning (here and here).

My favourite story is on pages 279-281, once you’ve read it, do let me know if you find it special, too. And enjoy reading the book!

Kinga Macalla

March 20, 2019

Book review: The Atlas of Happiness by Helen Russell

What makes us happy? Money, success, family, friends, surroundings, weather? The more I read about happiness, the more I think that happiness comes from inside, from our attitude towards what happens in our life. Would you agree?

This recent publication by Helen Russell (who now lives in Denmark – consistently one of the top 10 happiest countries in the world – and is the author of The Year of Living Danishly) takes us around the world to search for happiness in as many as 30 countries! The author uses humour, modern language, her own experience & beautiful illustrations to awaken our imagination to understand happiness better. We learn about this positive emotion through concepts — phrases which might be seen as key ingredients to understanding happiness in different countries.

We read about the known concepts, such as the American homeyness, Brazilian saudade, Canadian joie de vivre, English jolly, Hawaiian aloha, Italian dolce far niente, Japanese wabi-sabi, Spanish sobremesa and Swedish lagom. But also lesser-known ideas (at least to me!): Chinese xingfu 幸福 (“the state of being happy”, the term refers to “a good life that is sufficient, sustainable, and has meaning”), Syrian tarab (“musically induced ecstasy or enchantment”) or Welsh hwyl (“a strong, stirring feeling of emotion, enthusiasm and fervour”).

The concepts that made me smile most come from Scandinavian countries (I know I need to start exploring Scandinavia!). First is the Danish arbejdsglæde (“happiness at work”, something that’s essential to living the good life for Danes). The Danish have shorter working days, a casual dress-code and more flexibility at work, time for hobbies, and they “expect to be happy at work”. [62] I know it sounds so perfect that you immediately want to move to Denmark!

The Icelandic concept can uplift our spirits (and make us happier), because it shows that our attitude matters and that reading is important (I agree!). The concept is called þetta reddast and means “it will all work out”, whether that’s a financial crisis, harsh weather conditions (in Iceland: sub-zero temperatures, snowstorms or dark winters) or day-to-day challenges.

The Norwegian concept can be linked with the positive value of being close to nature. The term friluftsliv means “free air life”, the physical and spiritual well-being uplifted after spending time in remote locations. Norway’s geography helps; their landscapes formed of mountains, forests, fjords, waterfalls and coast are spectacular. And in the evening, you can be inspired by Slow TV and watch live transmissions, e.g. of “fjords out of the window during a seven-hour train journey”. [175]

Do you already feel calmer, more relaxed and happier? Me, too.

Have you read The Atlas of Happiness? Which concept resonates most with you?

Kinga Macalla